As a kid Summer break is what you live for. It’s the light at the end of the tunnel. It’s FREEDOM. Freedom from homework,class presentations, waking up to an alarm and abiding by curfews. It’s after you become a parent that you have a whole new perspective on Summer. And have that moment you think ” OH!!! Thats why my parents were tired AF and begged for peace and quiet, now I get it”. Because now I have joined the club of tired parents counting down the days until my child goes back to school. It’s almost a rite of passage in parenthood.
My friend Mandy Burnett makes motherhood look so easy. She manages to be a fabulous Mama to a shit ton of kids, while running her boutique and empowering women. So I thought she was the perfect guest to come in and cheer us on as we near the end of Summer.
You guys. I’m so tired.
I’m tired of the arguing.
I’m tired of the word bored.
I know it’s not popular but I’m tired of summer.
At the end of May I get so excited for summer break. I have big plans for the kids. We’ll go to the beach every week. I have Pinterest boards full of experiments and crafts to do. Evenings will be spent chilling by the fire pit. It all sounds so glorious. Fast forward to mid-June. We hadn’t done most of those things and I was feeling done. Like stick a fork in me, done.
By the time you’re reading this I will be in the home stretch of the very last week of summer break. You’re welcome for going ahead of you, I’ll take the hit. So how did I survive? Here are my top five tips for how to make it through the last weeks of Summer Break when you love your kids but you also love your sanity. **Worth noting…I did google this topic first to get some ideas and wouldn’t you know google was full of ideas for grandiose plans and extravagant last-minute Pinterest projects. #NotThatMom #FThatInTheA #INeededRealHelp
Make a list of every fun thing you’ve done so far. I assure you it’s more than you think. Remembering what you already HAVE done will help alleviate that mom guilt we all buy in to. When your kid says they haven’t done anything fun you can spit rapid fire at them all the goodness AND it will also help steady yourself for the next few weeks as you’re counting down to the day school starts!
Pick a fun activity that you can tolerate and put it on the calendar. Count down the sleeps until the big day, make it a huge deal, lay it on thick. This will be your go to answer when your kid asks you why you aren’t doing anything fun today. “We’re going to have lots of fun in ten sleeps Chloe. Gotta save your energy for that!”
Trade a play date. Grab a friend with kids similar in age and pick a time she can hang with all the kids while you run errands, grocery shop or just sit at home catching up on Real Housewives of New York with a glass of wine or two. I mean if you’re not caught up, girl, you are missing OUT this season!
And then swap with her. The kids get double the fun and the mom’s each get a hot minute to get their shit together and catch their breath.
Call in the reinforcements. Gather your girls. Assemble your tribe. It’s ok to need a break. It’s critical to have some time without your kids even if you work outside the home all day and barely get a chance to catch your breath. You NEED your tribe. My girlfriends give me perspective and laughter and most of all-they call their kids little shits too from time to time. And that just makes me feel normal.
Be present. I’ve made the conscious decision to spend this week just doing our collective best to enjoy the last week of summer this year. It’s not a week we can get back or replicate in a month. Might as well lean in and enjoy it! Besides…I can do anything for seven days that I couldn’t maintain for a lifetime. Except maybe run a few miles.
Listen, you might be the kinda mom that wakes up early every morning of summer break ready to knock it out of the park. To those moms, I salute you! But that’s not me and I’m going to bet dollars to donuts most of us aren’t that mom. Girl, you are almost there. You’ve almost made it. Here’s to your mad dash to the first day of school. May your last few weeks be filled with a few good memories and a little less boredom. And if it’s not…don’t worry…drinks on me the first day of school. Cheers mama, we’re in the trenches together!
Mandy Burnett is a writer, speaker, social retailer and a real live person outside of the internet! She is a mom, a bonus mom, a wife, sister, daughter and a riot.
She has her degree in Organizational Psychology, owned a Cold Stone Creamery, co-produced an independent film, has sold everything under the sun and now owns the Just McGee & Me Boutique and online community. Fun, thoughtful and sometimes provocative she’s charmed the hearts of a few but looking to charm the many.